tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8948464446987183317.post1515721931177675400..comments2023-10-05T09:51:46.272-04:00Comments on DelSo: Care PackageDelSohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01128537559478176351noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8948464446987183317.post-57839472030767322472011-03-30T21:36:44.515-04:002011-03-30T21:36:44.515-04:00Silvia, that is all that you and I knew when growi...Silvia, that is all that you and I knew when growing up. It was take care of ourselves or....??? Simply put, we needed to take care of ourselves at way too early of age. In fact, I was taking care of my own mother when I was 7 years old. HA ! Imagine our children taking care of anything at all when they were 7 years old! It was all a big mistake. It was what we knew, and the only life we knew how to live. We didn't know when we got married that we wanted to be taken care of so we continued with the care taking or the difficulty accepting when someone tried to care for us. It is an uncomfortable place for us to experience. I know that for myself, I too, want to continue on with my independence, my successful career, the mounds of responsibility it entails to manage Erik and Juliana's lives. What I want taken care of is me...my emotional me. I want the love and sensitivity I did not get to experience at a young age and that sometimes gets thrown to the waist side by our busy lives. I want someone who cherishes as you have mentioned before. We don't want to sit back and let someone take over the household, quit our jobs, have someone pay the bills or plan our lives. We want someone to simply love and appreciate and cherish us for who we are as individuals. Maybe some romance perhaps, intimacy after a hard day of taking care of everything that we continue to have to tend to on a daily basis no matter how much someone cherishes us. There is a huge difference between the two "carings". One is everyday responsibilities that we are more than willing to continue to "take care of" and the other is to have someone "take care of us" emotionally. I have spoken my peace.Bethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8948464446987183317.post-86229365928850981662011-03-30T20:12:46.175-04:002011-03-30T20:12:46.175-04:00Ditto.
I struggle with a lot of depression but an ...Ditto.<br />I struggle with a lot of depression but an independent streak that sometimes -- okay, often -- borders on stubborn. Being with partners who seemed like they needed to be taken care of has often been a way to avoid dealing with my own issues. .jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02193082300811955905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8948464446987183317.post-22453083552814160972011-03-30T19:01:12.585-04:002011-03-30T19:01:12.585-04:00Amen. Sing it sister. Don't let anyone tell yo...Amen. Sing it sister. Don't let anyone tell you that you are incapable of anything. You are fabulous, talented, generous, humorous, caring, and innately wonderful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8948464446987183317.post-78692537420452325872011-03-30T13:56:04.225-04:002011-03-30T13:56:04.225-04:00I hear you. My whole life I've put high priori...I hear you. My whole life I've put high priority on independence, and caring for myself. On top of that I also have strong care *giving* tendencies, and historically have gotten involved with those who want/need caring for. Unfortunately, those types don't always have the capacity or desire to reciprocate on the occasions I actually could use a little care myself.<br /><br />My current partner has the same tendencies as me. Two givers who aren't in the habit of being cared for... that took some getting used to! But, ultimately, it's become a really joyful place for me to be.Elizabethhttp://elizabethlikes.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com