Monday, February 27, 2012
15 years of parenthood
Fifteen years ago today, on the warmest February 27th on record in Albany, I became a parent. While I've spent the last decade and a half teaching my son about life, the world and his family, I would be remiss in not acknowledging all the things he has taught me.
1. His birth, from the earliness of his arrival (5+weeks premature) to the method of delivery
(c-section) taught me that despite a combination of meticulous planning and the miracle of
conception, being a parent is often about yielding control.
2. My post delivery drugged condition left me with very little interest in holding my new baby
boy. His dad demonstrated the beauty of paternal love and attention as he cradled his son
in his arms. Beautiful.
3. Life changes with parenthood, but balance remains important. People who have nothing to
talk about other than their children are tedious.
4. Exposing children to travel and culture from an early age is as valuable as any formal
education they will ever receive.
5. There is no pain that my children have suffered that I wouldn't gladly absorb as my own.
Since this isn't possible, my job is to help them develop tools for dealing with negative
situations and experiences.
6. Providing my boys with a healthy mixture of reality and possibility is an inspiring part of
being a parent.
7. Time moves quickly. Really quickly. I lost my breath recently considering that in 3 or 4
short years Liam will be in college. Wow.
8. Children come with their own preferences. Accepting these preferences is an excellent
9. My ridiculous rate of speed and multitasking is not a realistic thing to expect from my
children. I've been told a number of times that I need to stop giving multiple directions
simultaneously. I'm working on it.
10. Having my first baby at 30 was pretty ideal. I can't imagine having started my family any
sooner than that.
11. Traveling with children is like taking two trips - yours and theirs. Twice as cool,
frequently twice as exhausting.
12. Seeing how other people perceive your child is fascinating.
13. From their first steps, children are preparing to walk away from their parents. It's ok!!
They'll have so much to share when the come back home again.
14. I always imagined myself as a "girl" mom. I was wrong.
15. Fifteen years have gone faster than I ever could have imagined. There is nothing like
parenthood to teach the value of time.