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And, it's got me thinking about all the separate qualities, circumstances and characteristics which join together to become our own personal identity. How do we define ourselves, both privately and publicly, and how do our choices impact our ability to maintain an identity to which we've grown accustomed? Which ones do we personally foster and develop and at what price? The only conclusion I can make, at this point in my life, is that I'm a person who lives an open existence. If you ask me to keep your secrets, I will, but please don't ask me to refrain from sharing my own. The parts of my identity which I plan to display most often during this confusing, emotional time all originate in an internal place and involve frank honesty. And, they are the attributes which I hope to always possess - along with my position as "....'s wife."
It never seemed fair to me that in the midst of relationship wreckage a redefining of self must occur. One feels like screaming, "I'm busy, dammit!"
ReplyDeleteI suppose it's another one of those things that Must Be, but it just seems like a monumental task when you're overwhelmed with other things.